As a cis man speaking to cis people everywhere, we *have* to normalize asking for pronouns and not assuming. It's a small way in which we can make the world safer for our trans, non-binary, gender-nonconforming, etc comrades.

I know it might feel weird at first, but part of it is also retraining *yourself* not to assume, and to get rid of the internalized assumption that we can guess/infer someone's gender and pronounds based on how they look.

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@chiraag [she/they] As a person that isn't cis, I'd rather we eliminated casually gendered cordialities, "Excuse me [miss]", "I'm sorry [Madam]." "Have a nice day [m'lady]" than started asking for pronouns. On the other hand, normalising _offering_ of pronouns is something that I would enjoy seeing. I don't want to police others or virtue signal, but we can still improve communication.

@isobel Oh, I absolutely agree. Almost nothing *needs* to be gendered, and we simply insert gender into the equation.

Hell, tons of languages don't even have gendered pronouns! It's just one pronoun for third-person singular and one pronoun for third-person plural. It's just that in the West, people have grown up accustomed to grammatical gender and differentiating words based on gender (many other languages more so than English).

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