#NarcissistDictionary: #Empath
Urban Dictionary says, "Probable #narcissist who mistakes #hypervigilance and #projection resulting from
early childhood #trauma for a Trekkie superpower. Will spend more time
telling you how they think you feel than actually listening to your problems,
yet believes themselves to be a healer of sorts."
To the Urban Dictionary definition, I would add "probable narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic, #psychopath or some other combination of the #ClusterB variety pack. And while I'm at it, let's discuss #NarcissisticAbuse.
"Narcissistic abuse" is one of those terms like "empath," that proliferates YouTube and the rest of the narco-sphere. Abuse is abuse. When it comes to intimate partner abuse, child abuse, workplace bullying, etc., narcissists are just one of the usual suspects.
Are all people who perpetrate abuse narcissists? No. Again, the usual suspects include the narcissist, borderline, #histrionic, psychopath, #paranoid and #dependent personality disorders. These are also the folks at the root of most high conflict divorce and custody litigation.
Regardless of the actual clinical diagnoses of the abuser, abuse is, in and of itself, narcissistic.
Abusers have no empathy for their victims. In fact, they have contempt for anyone who allows themself to become a preferred target or doormat. They don't feel bad if they hurt you, because their intention is to hurt you.
Abusers blame others -- usually their victims -- for their abusive behavior. And, if you try to hold them accountable or expose their abuse, they play victim and abuse you harder. Some borderliners argue that they can't be abusive; only narcissists can be abusive.
This is ridiculous.
For example, #NPD wife and #BPD wife assault their respective husbands. Why? Because they're triggered for some reason, and, using Cluster B "logic," their husbands deserve it.
According to many BPDs, however, it's only abusive if NPD wife assaults her husband. Alternately, it's not abusive if BPD wife assaults her husband. It's the BPD who's suffering, not the husband that they bit, kicked and scratched up.
This is nuts.
A BPD diagnosis doesn't magically render abusive acts not abusive. Some borderlines (diagnosed and undiagnosed) believe they're empaths. An empath is someone who supposedly has superhuman empathy.
Self-identifying empaths claim they can feel the world's pain and suffering so acutely that it "makes them" hurt others. That's right. Other people's pain makes the borderline react with anger and sometimes violence because of their massive empathy. In Objective Reality Land, this is the OPPOSITE of empathy.
Like I said, it's nucking futs.
