Sportsball Capitalist Demand Avoidance: When you genuinely like sports but because everything in society is using marketing of it to get you to use an app or buy a product or service because of sports imagery because "you should love sports, everybody loves sports", you end up loathing it instead.
#DemandAvoidance
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I really need to look at my next uni assignment and redraft it.
So I've hoovered all downstairs.
I went for a walk to get marmite (not sorry).
I turned back to buy frozen hash browns.
I did a 30min workout on a non-workout day.
And now I've scrolled the entire internet.
That means there's only one thing left on my to-do list:
- Put the kettle on.
#ActuallyAutistic #DemandAvoidance
#Pathological #Demand #Avoidance (PDA) Misconceptions
#Pathologicaldemandavoidance (#PDA) is most often seen in people with #autism, but certain traits also have been seen with people with #ADHD and other sensory processing #disorders. In this video I will talk about what PDA is, why it's often searched with ADHD and autism, strategies that can help those with pathological #demandavoidance, and what it's like living with PDA.
I just learned what demand avoidance is and how I could help myself over come it.
Taking showers has been a fight ever since I remember. So I made a list of my hidden demands:
Before the shower:
Finding clean underwear and towels (laundry demand related which is a whole other list)
Brushing my hair out
- finding a brush
- dealing with painful tangles
(Could get a hair cut which includes various demands)
During the shower:
water temperature needs to be good
- waiting for the water temp to be good
- anxiety related to wasting water while waiting
I hate getting water on my face because it goes in to my eyes when I open them
I hate showering with my eyes closed because I’m afraid I’d get hurt
After the shower:
Temperature change when I get out
The feeling of being wet when I exit the bath/shower
Dealing with my wet hair - won’t use a hair dryer because i don’t like how that makes my hair feel dry and unmanageable
Feeling of my skin after I dry off with a towel
Feeling of moist clothing on my skin (I usually go out to the bedroom and completely dry off sitting in front of a fan before I put clothes on)
Still dealing with my wet hair
Interesting how there are so many things that were demanding my energy. No surprise there just the thought of it makes me want to not do it.
Really hard getting going today, fighting through a not atypical anxiety meltdown about some recent stressors in my family, not to mention all this (waves arms at world). 
Pretty sure learning about #DemandAvoidance on the Internet isn't helping. There is this test and I "passed" https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSc0eFJV5wJzJAw2R9ii2ts_cfTZ8mGKcsdWnehz-XATOSFs3w/viewform so starting to think I might be a bit on the #Autism spectrum. Losing interest in everything
Google DocsPDA test for adultsCreated by Riko Ryuki and Sally Cat.
This test includes questions relating to PDA and autism and can be used to help people better determine whether the profile of PDA and autism relate to them.
This test is developed for adults, but the questions can also be used for children. There are a number of questions, separated into two groups, the first lot are for PDA traits; and the second for traits of autism.
These questions show how likely people may be to be PDA, and how likely they are to be autistic.
Please note this test hasn’t been devised by a professional and so will not be recognised in as a diagnostic tool. However this test has been created by two adult PDAers with the help of other PDA adults, and as such, may be helpful in self-diagnosing.
The 50 PDA and 40 autism traits in this self-test are a refinement an earlier adult PDA test Riko Ryuki created in 2016. Some of those PDA traits had been gleaned from an informal PDA traits study carried out by Sally Cat in 2016 which compared the ranking of 155 potential distinct PDA traits between 90 non-PDA autistic, and a 290 PDA adult respondents (http://www.sallycatpda.co.uk/2019/06/). Autism traits were selected by Riko Ryuki from an online autism self-assement tool called the AspieQuiz (https://rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php).
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@johnnyprofane1 @cinja Agree! I can see the utility of it to get past the inertia of a writing activity. And then perhaps editing or wholesale rewriting seems “easier.”
Overall the inability for LLM to fact-check themselves is both a liability of their technology and their training material. As I tell my son, never blindly trust everything you see on the Internet. That goes for you too ChatGPT! 
anyone on here learning about #pathologicalDemandAvoidance/ #persistentDriveForAutonomy and how it has affected their lives? #pda #demandAvoidance #autism #autistic #adhd #audhd #audhdwomen #ADHDwomen
Speaking of #DemandAvoidance and #ADHD, the impending return of spouse, after nearly three years of #COVID in China, has me making my latest pass through the home for decluttering, tidying, etc. I’ve heard that #AuDHD leads to “level 1” hoarding, such as having difficulty getting rid of detritus. I believe it! Once I can get past my executive issue in initiating tasks, it’s easy! 
Now if only I could avoid #burnout enough to make it easy all the time!
#TrueStory: I only sign into my email once a week.
This isn't #DemandAvoidance though I do have that and it is connected. It's a way of managing my #anxiety because emails from certain people are, for me like anxiety landmines that will affect me for days. I keep those people only to email communications by never answering their calls and if they text, I ask them to email.
If I need to stay away from anxiety I'll wait until I am ready.
groan.
My #Anxiety is through the roof today and kicking my butt.
Nothing majorly wrong. Just a project reshuffle at work. Where some of us are getting rotated out to work on other projects for other teams. Not end of the world stuff.
but my #ActuallyAutistic side is screaming in my skull about the uncertainty of what I'll be doing. My #DemandAvoidance doesn't want to do the rounds of "interviews" with other teams.
I don't know what I'll be doing in a month's time or where! :(
Woke up with level 5 (0-9) anxiety this morning. Why?
Because I'm going food shopping.
I'm #ActuallyAutistic and live with constant fear and #anxiety.
For me this is not sensory but #DemandAvoidance because, well, anything could go wrong and then how would I cope? 
Even though I do this every couple of weeks it doesn't help. Life is terrifying if your brain is wired to expect something terrible in every unexpected event.
Yet I got past 60 without realising I'm #autistic.
@actuallyautistic
Not-going-to-bed, because "I should probably go to bed" ... it's 1:30am and I haven't actually *done* any of the fun things I wanted to. Because even just wanting to do something (even a special interest / music hobby) feels like a (subconscious) demand. #PDA sucks!
(at least I think this is what's going on... or maybe I'm just burned out)
#actuallyautic #DemandAvoidance @actuallyautistic
Not-going-to-bed, because "I should probably go to bed" ... it's 1:30am and I haven't actually *done* any of the fun things I wanted to. Because even just wanting to do something (even a special interest / music hobby) feels like a (subconscious) demand. #PDA sucks!
(at least I think this is what's going on... or maybe I'm just burned out)
#actuallyautic #DemandAvoidance @actuallyautistic
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@btaroli It might be helpful
not to think of it as "dividing his attention",
but more like "frequently switching, as often as he needs to".
The way it sometimes works for me;
If there's one thing I have to (even if I want to) do, then I'll avoid doing that thing.
But if I have two things,
then I can actively avoid thing #1 by doing #2,
and then when I feel like avoiding #2, switch back to #1.
And in the end, both things may get done, even though I felt like I was working on the wrong thing,
the "wrong thing" is just "another right thing".
It's something I recently realised, I'm planning try and make this magic scenario happen more frequently.
PS, I think (for me) this has something to do with #PDA / #DemandAvoidance
- read up on that and see if it applies...
it was a game changer for me personally!
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@callisto maybe for you but for me #DemandAvoidance isn't just when I'm overloaded.
I can be in the best state ever and still avoidant of things that for others are trivial, and which I've done many times before without issue. I'll still struggle and have to either force them or approach them with care and awareness of how this is impacting me.
I'm lucky these days that I don't have to force many things because decades of that screwed my physical health.
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@seanwithwords @actuallyautistic Similar: I find it onerous and #DemandAvoidance kicks in.
I've an allistic friend who likes me and I enjoy hanging out with, but sometimes have to say no to even when I'd like to meet up, if I also need quiet (making spoons?). The practical situation also creates barriers, especially as I find it very hard to call him up (or any friend).
In the past, friendship has worked best for me when it arises in a structure. Actually 'arranging' it is so hard for me.
Being #ActuallyAutustic I'm anxious if have a thing to do = all the time. It's a form of 'demand', creates anxiety, big spoon consumer.
I stopped doing todo lists to reduce this anxiety by reducing the number of simultaneous demands. Each time I complete one I get a little respite.
By 'important', I don't mean has to be done fast. I just mean, particularly #anxiety generating.
It doesn't matter if I have weeks to do X, I'll be super anxious until it's done. #DemandAvoidance @actuallyautistic
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@rekindled I recognize that #BodyDoubling happens for me, yes. I didn’t know it had a name. I’m not sure of the distinction between #DemandAvoidance snd #ExecutiveFunctioning issues. I can say that when my task issues happen I am anxious, body stiffens and heart races.
Other people trigger/exhaust me too, so I I tend to plan to avoid them whenever possible. That can contribute to my task issues.
Sone tasks have been going for years this way. #ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic
After reading a third of #DifferentNotLess by Temple Grandin I could see some things that were relevant but my own searching and things people have shared here (thank you all) have helped me home in on two areas I strongly recognise in myself, that are perhaps responsible for other traits such as routine, planning & rehearsing everything and difficulty w change.
Those are Pathological #DemandAvoidance and #RejectionSensitivity. Maybe also #SocialAnxiety.